chosengeneration wrote:
Paddy,
I, too, strive to be the best performer that "I can be". But I don't claim to be a Rolls and call others a used vw. That is where the arrogance is.
If you are a Rolls, why haven't I heard of you before I joined this forumn? Mr. Rolls would be world famous, don't you think? But, instead, you hang around this forumn insulting everyone except the "holy huddle" of 3 or 4 of you. I am not suggesting that you are not a full time magician. Just the attitude is CRAZY.
You stated
"we must remember that it is a business that delivers one of the most important "products" in the world. A happy time for everyone watching us. "
I totally agree! my question is this:
HOW DO YOU BRING A HAPPY TIME TO ANYONE WITH YOUR SOUR, HATEFUL ATTITUDE?
I understand the frustration that some of you regulars here get when someone comes along asking for the easy way out. BUT, that is not the case with THIS thread. Why are you ALWAYS so hateful?
Mike
Chosen,
I pretty much agree with what you said here, I've been through all this with him and a couple of others here as well. They say that their way isn't the only way but when you say something different than their way, you get chewed out by them. Something they call 'tough love.'
I always try to be gentle in what I say with somebody because I believe in this:
A GENTLE WORD TURNS AWAY WRATH.
If you treat somebody hard, there's a high chance they won't remember any 'good advice' you gave them and all they want is to chew back at you. But if you talk nicely to somebody letting them know where they are wrong (plus, where they are correct), they have nothing to redirect themselves from your post and they will have a greater chance at reading what you said and taking it with them. I believe in 'gentle love.'
I'm worried that many new and young people get such a negative response from some of these guys that they may leave magic altogether even though they really are devoted. Remember, when you get told something that you're not expecting, sometimes it takes awhile for it to sink in. Some of these guys here just don't want to wait that time.
I can easily say that I'm not a full time magician, I don't have the years that some have here, but I have still been around long enough, done enough shows to have a say here, to offer my advice. I have witnessed things that work for myself and others that even some of the top professionals teach opposite of.
Some seasoned people here are so much into their full time profession that they forget many of the beginning traits that are common in magic, such as free shows (especially for beginners, but not limited too them, seasoned pros performing for certain charities or hospitals are great examples). Many examples that were given such as doctors not giving any free advice was fully wrong. It's not often it happens, but it does. Even lawyers are known to donate their time on occasion.
If I was to hire a magician for a kid show from this kid show forum, I would go with somebody who is positive and gentle because it's kids they will be performing for. The magician I would hire would be space_ghost15 as he is the most positive person here and if you check his web site, the most professional (from my viewpoint anyway). He does back up some of these harsher people on a usual basis, but still, he attempts a better style that doesn't make you feel bad. And even though I may disagree with him on a few points (not many, though), I always pay attention to what he says. He knows his stuff. As many others do, I'm sure yourself included, chosen, I just don't know you as much yet. So far, you seem like a great guy. Keep it up!