Hey everyone, I just really need advice....
My dad HATES MAGIC, with a passion and he caught me making a video of a card trick, and I got REALLY busted. Btw, I'm 16, and yeah I'm probably to old to be like... controlled like that, but he really got crazy, and threatened to kick me out the house if I don't stop. He says the bible doesn't allow magic, but I did my studies and creating illusions, and sleight of hand is nothing wrong. But he will not even listen to one word, he is closed minded.
I went to all my friends, and my best friend didn't help much, she really just says "his house his rules, you have no say" witch I find stupid, because it doesn't make sense to be in prison, in your own house... And she never really liked my magic, I could do the most coolest trick, and she doesn't even care or say thats cool, she just point something out that doesn't even relate to the trick, like my shirt or bed spreads. So I really don't have support from my friends and family, only my little bro who is some what interested and understands... But he is still little, he will do what our dad says. I am thinking of quiting magic completely. I don't want to at ALL, I love doing magic, getting people to laugh, cry, and run away with their shirts off. And I am pretty good too... But lets say I leave at 18, and be a magician, what will happen when I visit? My dad calling me satan and not talking to me... I don't know what to do.... What should I do?
I'm sorry you have to go through this...I could sit and tell you stories all day about how controlling my parents were. I lived at home up till 3 months ago. I had gotten so tired of being told "If you want to do things your way, then you just need to get out", that I finally said "Fine...I'm gone". When I said this, it took my family by surprise....he thought I was bluffing, so he said "Fine...when can you be out then?" and I responded with "In a couple days". His jaw hit the floor. I left and we haven't really spoken much since...Main point is...sometimes you just have to stand up for YOURSELF as an individual and make your parents understand that they can't live your life for you. My family never really supported my magic...nor anything else for that matter....and I think that's why I became such a perfectionist and have all the achievements I've accomplished. Many parents like to exhibit "psychological control" of their kids...I went through it, and so did my sisters. There comes a point when you realize that they can't really follow through with most of the threats they've thrown at you due to legality issues....it's just means of control. I was controlled till I was 22...don't take that path...I highly discourage it. Things have gotten so much better in my life since I set my foot down and stood up for myself and my own life. Even my friends have told me that I've become a completely new person.
you're 16, I'm 22...they can't really kick you out and expect you to leave. You're fine. all they can do is ground you, and at your age, even that is limited. You and I have a lot in common concerning our parental relationships. Don't hesitate to Message me if you want to talk about it some more.