I believe I can work on the confidence part easily... I, stupidly now that I look back on it, used a word choice along the lines of "I wanna try something new, I haven't done it before but it seems fun, can I try to hypnotize you?"
So that opener is crumbled up, dipped in oil, lit aflame, and stomped out on a dusty road. From the hypnotism videos I've seen (can't wait to see it in person), the Hypnotist always does just as you said. Introduces himself confidently, and proceeds to do as promised.
Thank you for that advice, and I'm going to take you up on the PMing offer.
You're right that was a very poor choice of words. The poorest choice being the word 'try.' Try implies one of two outcomes, success or failure. Right? You think to yourself, "it could turn out great, it could look great, feel great, work perfectly or... it might fail, I might lose out financially, I may look stupid, feel embarrassed.... well I'm not really sure which one it will be, so I'll just try
it." Like dipping your toe in the water, you're limiting the amount of energy you put into the new situation in order to limit the down side.
So when you ask to hypnotize someone, don't ask if you can try
it, because you're sending a very clear set of instructions to both them and yourself that it might not even work. Don't try, just do. Ask them if they would like to be hypnotized, and if you can have their permission, but always work from a frame of mind that you are in fact a hypnotist, and you can do it.
I never or rarely do hypnosis with family members, as others have pointed out they don't make for good subjects. A great deal of hypnosis has to do with the relationship between hypnotist and subject, and it's infinitely easier on someone who has no preconceived notions of who you are and what you're capable of.
Lastly, I never do instant inductions or shock inductions to a brand new subject, (although possible) its a thousand times easier to do an instant induction on someone who you have already brought in and out of trance before. In fact, I would say the magic number here is 6. After bringing someone in and out of trance 6 times, an instant induction should be fairly automatic as the subject already knows you can hypnotize them and already trusts you to do so. At that point I don't even have to touch them for instant induction, I just snap my fingers and say SLEEP in a deep but bold voice. (somewhat shocking
) Also at this point I don't think it may
work, I know that it will.