how dya tell the restaurant that you want to work not just with tips-an hourly wage to get them to say yes without sounding rude?
Try reading the first pages of this thread. This has been answered a number of times. Just as a brief hint, you set up something called an "interview" and during that "interview" you lay out something called a "rate sheet" - or you can just let them know how you charge for your services verbally. A rate sheet is far more professional and lets them know you aren't just playing games with them. You are a professional that will treat this restaurant as a professional establishment and will be accountable, prompt, courteous and very entertaining for their guests. You will be a representative of the restaurant and will treat the restaurant, its guests and staff with the utmost of professional courtesy and respect. Now, go back and read the wealth of information that this thread and a couple others in the restaurant walkaround forum contain. You'll be surprised at what you can learn if you just do a bit of reading first.
Good luck, and welcome to the boards. Sorry if I sounded snippy, but there is a large audience here that sometimes is very lazy and doesn't want to research anything before posting a topic. A couple others might have posted even more harshly against you, but I try to be at least civil and courteous in my posts because that's how I would want to be treated.