:oops: Im having problems when someone says let me examine that, and of course if i don't let them it looks REALLY POOR but obviously if i do then they'll see the secret! I'm not sure what i should do..
The best thing is prevention, as I have said in other posts. When it does happen, it really is amazing how well ignoring them works. If they persist, and are adults, then it becomes funny . . . When I sense someone is that type of person, I set them up with a trick and make it look like it is done one way, but really uses another. You can see the person itching to say they know how it is done . . . When they claim, or just think they know how it is done, I say "I wouldn't point any fingers (while pointing at them), but some people think I cheat" then display the prop to show I wasn't cheating in the way they thought (and everyone else thought). This will shut them down so they don't think they are foolish, again. I do this in a variety of ways, all the time.
You have to understand the psychology of people who do this. They are people who think they are smart, and want attention - just like magicians. I would be surprised if a magician wasn't like this before they started magic . . . It is important not to present a confrontational attitude, or an attitude of "I'm so smart, I'm going to trick you". Spend some time, if you can, getting to know them, and try to present your magic not as foolers, but as entertainment. This will work 95% of the time. The other things I mentioned work for the other 4.5% of the time, and in the last .5%, just ignore them will general work. When it doesn't, and it doesn't play off as funny, then bite the bullet and walk away. If it happens a lot, examine the routines that it happens in. Try to figure out why, then modify the routines or get rid of them.
Remember, performing magic regularly may be fun, but it isn't easy. Nor do trick cards and the ability to do the mechanics well make you a magician. You are a magician when your audience suspends reality for a moment and thinks you are magic. If not, you are just a clever trickster. This how David Blaine got national attention doing common, relatively easy magic. It was presentation, not tricks. For those who think that they are as good as David because they can perform his magic tricks, think again.
The offering will follow now that the preaching is done.